The Mystery of 'Nice People'
You come home excited. "It was great! They laughed, asked questions, smiled." You expect a second date. You text... and get silence. What happened? You likely mistook Social Politeness for Romantic Chemistry.
1. Signs It Was JUST Politeness
Polite people avoid awkwardness. Fake interest looks like this:
- Interview Conversation: Standard questions (work, siblings) just to fill silence, no deep dive.
- Closed Body Language: Smiling mouth but dead eyes, crossed arms, keeping distance.
- Vague Ending: "We'll see," "I'm busy this week." No concrete plan for a second date is the clearest sign of disinterest.
2. Signs of Real Chemistry
- Mirroring: They unconsciously copy your gestures. You sip, they sip.
- Prolonged Eye Contact: Looking at you slightly longer than socially necessary. Glancing at lips.
- Dilated Time: No checking phones. 2 hours felt like 20 minutes.
- Fast Follow-up: They text the same night. Genuine interest doesn't play games.
3. Confused?
If you are confused, the answer is 'No'. Someone who likes you makes it obvious. Don't force a closed door.
Conclusion
Politeness is a mask. Chemistry is energy. Learn the difference to save your heart from people who are just being 'nice'. Look for the fire.
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